In the 19th century, being a horny woman could land you in a mental hospital

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The year 1856 was a very challenging one for Dr. Horatio R. Storer. The poor doctor was stuck treating two extremely difficult patients.

And who were these patients from hell?

Why they were a couple of thoroughly incorrigible nymphomaniacs that’s who! Nymphomania was a major concern in the 19th century. And it was pretty easy to define — in a nutshell, if you were a horny women who wanted sex and you wanted it good, you, my dear, were a nymphomaniac (gasp)!

Nymphomania slammed against the standard Victorian party line that women were asexual creatures, “not very much troubled by…

Because tolerance and compassion don’t always come naturally to us hoomans

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A few years ago, I adopted my first rescue cat. And it’s been a wonderful experience with some surprising benefits. My adorable little housemate had a rather rough start in life. She was abandoned and semi-traumatized, and I think that coping with her issues forced me to become more tolerant and patient. These are NOT qualities that come naturally for me.

So, did I rescue her, or did she rescue me? I’m not sure the answer to that one.

I adopted her in January 2013 after an especially bad holiday. Right before Christmas, my beautiful, frail 18-year-old cat, Daffy, finally…

The brain science of how they do it and how to multiply your pleasure

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“Anonymous” is an ordinary, middle-aged woman and working mother with one amazing superpower. She’s capable of having 100 orgasms or more in a typical sexual encounter!

I came across an interview with her in the journal, “Sexual and Relationship Therapy”, while writing my article on misconceptions about the female orgasm.

Though she refused to use her real name in the paper, she did discuss in depth her experiences with multiple orgasms. Her story is presented as a scientific case study. Let’s just say it’s jaw-dropping.

“Orgasms with a partner could in essence be indefinite but usually after around 60 or…

Virtuoso tip number 1: It’s all about pleasure, not performance

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“He drove his tongue inside her, setting off another shattering moan that was music to his ears. She was quite an instrument to play, so finely tuned, and if he touched her right, she made the most glorious sounds — raw, intense, absolutely delicious noises of pleasure as he plundered her with his tongue. — Lauren Blakely

When it comes to sex, the vulva is an exquisite instrument capable of producing and sending incredible sensations. But all women are different. And what sends Carry Ann to the moon will send Susan screaming out the door.

Now, this could be said…

Here are 5 misconceptions about the female orgasm that are promoted as fact

Female orgasms misconceptions.
Female orgasms misconceptions.
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Poor Princess Marie Bonaparte (great grandniece of the short Frenchman with the bad attitude), in the immortal words of Mick Jagger, she “couldn’t get no satisfaction” despite a robust sex life.

Now it is true that her sex life didn’t include her closeted gay husband Prince George of Greece very much. But he wasn’t the only fish in the sea…There was always his aid-de-camp, that cute prime minister of France, and other lovers she took while married to George.

But none of them made her come during intercourse.

This bothered the hell out of her! It didn’t help that Freud…

A mental health tale from the dark-side

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When I was 25 years old, I went on the road trip from hell — all thanks to my new best friend and her jailbird boyfriend.

At the time of the trip, I had known my BFF Karen* for almost a year. We had bonded deeply and were pretty joined at the hip by the time this merry jaunt into the 9th circle took place.

We clicked despite our wildly different backgrounds. I was five years older than she was and a southerner, while she was from New York and barely 20.

It was a bond born out of trauma.

Meeting My New BFF

Three techniques this life coach uses to help herself and her clients get off the couch

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A few years ago, I noticed that the cellulite that had always made a patchwork quilt of my behind had somehow made its insidious way up to my arms. Let’s just say this wasn’t a wonderful discovery. In fact, it was downright jarring.

I have always had a tendency toward cellulite, even when I was less than 100 pounds, even as a teenager, and even with a strict workout regimen. It is my genetic lottery. My luck of the draw. So, I had long ago reconciled myself to cottage cheese thighs — as long as that’s where the cheese stayed.

And looked better with one less product

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A few years ago, I started doing fine art self-portrait photography. At the time, I was in my mid-forties, a grad student, and needed a creative outlet. While I loved self-portraiture, let’s just say that looking at my aging skin in unflattering light and raw HD was more than a little ego-deflating.

Let’s talk about dead bedrooms and the male sex deficit

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Let me introduce you to a guy who calls himself Nick. For some of you, his story might sound sadly familiar. Nick is a late-twenties Redditor who writes about his nonexistent sex life with his wife on the popular subreddit “dead bedrooms”.

Nick married young and quickly due to an unexpected pregnancy and has been married for over 4 years. The relationship started out well enough with plenty of sex but that went the way of analog a couple of years ago.

He hasn’t had sex in 10 months or seen his wife nude in over 8 months.

No kissing…

Forget porn moves; here are insights from the largest study ever conducted on women’s sexual preferences

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What do women want?

Ah, the age-old question that kept Big Daddy Freud tossing and turning at night and has had more than a few regular dudes scratching their heads too.

It’s a big question.

And to make it even more complex, let’s narrow it down even further: What do women want sexually?

Kinsey fellow Debby Herbenick has attempted to answer just that question. She is the lead researcher on the most comprehensive study ever conducted on women’s preferences regarding genital touch. The sex research company OMGyes partnered with her and with Indiana University to develop a website that utilized…

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