THE DEFINITIVE TUTORIAL

How to Get Off: An Orgasm Guide for Women

8 Steps to Maximize Your Pleasure

Kaye Smith PhD
14 min readJul 9, 2019

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According to statistics, anywhere from 10 to 26% of women (depending on who you read) are not orgasmic at all, and over 60% of women who are orgasmic aren’t happy with how often it occurs. Since my graduate dissertation for my PhD examined female sexual dysfunction, I spent a lot of time with these statistics. So, I put together this primer to provide some assistance for women experiencing this issue. These steps should help a woman both intensify her orgasm and increase the likelihood of having one.

Research on women who aren’t orgasmic (pre-orgasmia) has presented a complex picture. Sex researcher Shere Hite found that many of her study’s participants had never masturbated. So, sex therapists often work with women on learning how to pet their own kitty as a way to facilitate orgasm. According to research, Higher levels of education, lower levels of religious affiliation, and sexual guilt have also been associated with a more orgasmic sex life. A woman’s relationship with her dad counts. Dysfunctional or nonexistent father/daughter relationships are more associated pre-orgasmia.

While there isn’t much you can do about your father, there is still a lot that a woman can do to maximize her own satisfaction.

This tutorial will start off with getting you acquainted with the lay of your land. So, kick your knickers to the curb, get out a mirror (you’re going to need to get up close and personal with your lady bits), get some good lube (water-based or silicone lube, coconut, or almond oil are all good) and let’s get started. Learning to be orgasmic means learning what turns you on both alone and with a partner.

Train Your PC Muscles

Step 1. Strong orgasms begin with strong muscles. Most people have heard of Kegel exercise but may be confused about how to perform them correctly. The pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles) are the muscles that…

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Kaye Smith PhD

I am a life coach, sex educator, and fine art photographer. Check me out at https://kayesmithphd.com/